Thursday, September 21, 2006

I Didn't Expect THAT Phone Call

Well after my last post, it's a bit ironic that Dominic's teacher called me today. I guess they are noticing Dominic backsliding as well. She said that he's refusing to do the things he's told to do, pooping his pants on the playground, laughing when he gets introuble, yelling, hitting and being aggressive towards the teachers. She doesn't think their techniques are helping at that he needs more help. She knows our Ped. does not believe in ADHD and meds so she's rounding up some referrals for us. Most likely we'll start with a Child Psychologist and then probably end up having to switch Ped's I guess if he gives me flack over it. I'm just sad by this. I thought things were getting worse just here, not both places. She told me it's like he can't control his emotions at all. I told her he's been like the biggest drama queen here. He's either happy, pissed off and ready to kick your ass, or crying over something stupid like me opening his bedroom window to let fresh air in. And the crying isn't just crying, it's like straight meltdown/freakout crying with running around, falling on the floor, and bashing his head into the wall. I don't know anything about the meds except from my good friend who's son was has been on them for 2 years. I don't even know if I want to give him meds but I'm feeling so beat by this right now I might try anything at this moment. It's sad when the preschool teacher calls and says "how has Dominic been acting?" and your response back is "I'm about ready to kill him." That was her first question to me and my answer. I should feel horrible about saying that but somedays it's the truth. It was hard holding back tears on that call.


Jess said...

Sabrina, I don't know what to say except that I am sorry for you. It has to be so hard knowing you do your very best for your children and you can't seem to conquer an issue.

I hope you are able to get it resolved so everyone is happy. I don't think meds are the evil they are made out to be. In some cases meds are a lifesaver for kids who can't settle themselves down.

Best wishes to your family.

Laura said...

I agree with Jess that meds can be a wonderful thing for a child. It might be worth a try at least. I am so sorry for what you must be going through with Dominic, and I hope that you can get him the help he needs.

Adam's Mom said...

Oh Sabrina! I am sorry you are dealing with this! I agree with Jess though, meds aren't as evil as Tom Cruise would like us to believe. My BIL is a neuro psychologist who specializes in children. I'll see if he has any information for you! xoxo

Kirsten said...

I am so sorry girl. As a person with ADD, all I can offer is that you find the BEST specialist you can find to make sure the diagnosis is correct. Maybe he won't needs meds, not everyone does, but for some it is a great help. I know people who have had great results with behaviour therapy alone. Just do what is right for your family and don't feel guilty.


Kristi Ann said...

Wow...what a lot to take in!

I have a friend who's son is also on the medications...he is only 5. But for him it was needed. I have known him since birth and it was a constant struggle for her. They are both much happier for it.

That being said...I dont agree to it unless it is a last resort. I think the others advice on seeing more than one person is right on.

You are a STRONG woman hun...and I know you can handle it...just remember if you EVER need to vent....
you know where to find me!

(and Sammy can occupy Dominic on the video! LOL)

Huge HUGS!!!!