Question. What would you say is the one thing that you and your spouse fight the most over? Especially if you never argue, dispute or fight, what's the one thing that separates you both?
I ask this question because I finally had it this week and in an email Monday told Dave that if he didn't quit, I wanted him to leave. I'm not sure if I dare talk about it on here, I know some who I've known online for 3-4 years now might remember me discussing it on a few Internet forums. Basically we fight over sex. That is the ONLY thing we've ever fought about. I know it's normal, guys want it all the freakin time but our problem is I come to bed exhausted and in about 2 minutes I'm asleep. Anyone else relate? I mean crap I work my butt off all day from 6:30-10:30 and then I'm expected to just keep going when we come to bed. Well I get nudged and asked repeatedly if I would wake up until I finally get loud that I'm just too tired and by that time it's 1 am. Yeah like 2-3 hrs of him trying to wake me up. Every night I come to bed he asks if I'm going to close the door, if I say no and I'm tired, it leads to a BIG pout fest. We're talking turns on the TV volume up, then finally grabs his pillows all pissy like and sleeps on the couch at night. It usually leads me to crying in bed because #1 I feel so guilty and #2- I'm so mad at him I can't sleep and I'm begging my body to sleep. This happened the other day, but it's happened so many times in the past. Alex has actually woke up to him on the couch and came asking me why he was out there. It happened about 8 hrs before Damien was born by C-section and I was so upset from crying I threw up my midnight snack which was my meal for the next day since you can't eat all day.
So anyways my email basically told him I was sick of feeling like some slave. It's not romantic or anything to me anymore. I feel required. We usually do it normally 2-3 times a week but that's not enough I guess. I am starting to get to that huge phase and it's getting mighty uncomfortable you can imagine. Since getting the email though things have been better again and I hope it's not a phase. We've done it twice since then but there was no pressure which is what I'm so sick of.
It's interesting to know what others argue or fight over. My sister and her man fight constantly about his mom bringing his ex to family functions. My mom fights with my stepdad over his alcoholism. I feel like I have this weird situation that no couple would ever would fight over and I'd never tell any family member about because they just wouldn't believe it except for the fact that we have 5 kids. Many people in my personal life believe we live this perfect little life together and to find out we fight would be amusing. So what's your one thing?