Thursday, February 05, 2009

"I Neeeeed Help!! Speaka de English?!?!"

I feel like screaming this at my husband on a daily basis. I need some help girls, I don't know how or what but sisterly help would be appreciated. I feel so terrible this morning. Last night after watching some hot and heavy action on Nip Tuck, we made our way to bed. Like everynight (yes every night) he asked if we would be able to do anything in which I told him like 99% of the time, "I'm really tired." We cuddled up, he tried soooo hard kissing my neck and rubbing my back, it felt great......and like always.... I fell asleep. He tries and tries and tries and I go to sleep everytime. I feel so bad for him. It's to a point where he doesn't want to try anymore because he just knows. We used to do the deed 4-5 times a week, now we're lucky if it's 1. This morning before he left for work he asked for his kiss and I gave him a huge hug and told him how sorry I was in which he told me "don't worry about it, it's ok." I don't think it is at all. I feel like I'm failing him. It's not that I don't want to, it's that I don't have the energy to. He used to get so upset about this a few kids back. To a point where he'd go sleep on the couch. I think now he's just realizing it's not going to change and pouting does nothing. What do I do?!?! Don't suggest Mountain Dew right before bed because I have tried tons of caffeine and it doesn't help at all. Sadly the best (and most ackward) time we have sex now is on a Sunday morning before church while the kids are screaming and running around in the front room.


kbreints said...

4-5 times a week?? No wonder you have so many kids!! haha

I think (and this is just me) that he should be VERY pleased with once a week!

It is nice that you are feeling badly-- that means that you are in tune with his needs too... but... let him work for it a little more girl! LOL

Morgan said...

I would say just do it even if you don't have the energy. I would make it a priority to make time for it, no matter how exhausted you're feeling.

If you needed him to do something for you, such as mow the lawn or take out the trash because it needed to get done, it wouldn't fly if he said he was too tired, right? I think it's the same way in the bedroom- husbands have a basic need that needs to be fulfilled.

I guess I could go on about this subject, but it is the net. Still, I would make this area a priority in your marriage and know that everyone goes through dry spells and times of plenty.

Mama Kalila said...

Honestly... when we think we don't have the energy is usually when it's best for us lol. I can't count the times I tell him that I don't think I can and we do anyway. It always ends up w/ the best nights sleep too lol.

Jennifer said...

I agree...just do it lol! My hubby will go ahead and start without me whether I'm awake or not. I usually wake up at some point lol! Just give your hubby the go ahead to hop on even if you fall asleep ;-)

Lucia's Mom said...

What is this, the 1950s? If you don't want to, then don't! It hardly equates to putting the trash out! Now if he cooks dinner one night .... that's a different story!!