Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Is This It???

Yesterday was Parent-Teacher Conferences and a VERY busy day around here. I missed playgroup but picked up 1500 boxes of cookies then Dave ended up driving from work straight to conferences while I kept the kids since I never found a sitter. While he was gone I fed the kids and then he took Alex to her 4H Club meeting. It was an exhausting day!

When Dave came home after Parent Teacher conferences he told me that Dominic's teacher said we should think about holding Dominic back due to his "maturity level." He was not happy it all and neither was I after hearing it. He said he must have gave her a dirty look because she said this is optional however he's not up to par with the class. His grades are pretty average it's just his attention, actions and behavior in the classroom. This is a sad sad day because it's becoming more and more clear that now we may have to do something about it. For 2 years now the option of medicine has always been there but I've put it off because seriously, who really wants to dope up their kid everyday? And I really don't want him acting any different than himself....well maybe a little less strange and less hyper but I don't want a zombified child. My uncle who's son has ADHD and Autism and told me over and over don't let the school win the battle and how much he regret putting his son on meds and now I'm afraid this battle is about to begin. He had 2 1/2 years of Early intervention preschool before Kindergarten, has a mid school birthday. He'd be a 7 year old Kindergartner. He was also told because of State budget cuts that any hope of summer schooling to keep him from sliding is out the door so I'll probably be forking out for Sylvan.

When I asked Dave about at least "trying" the medicine the answer was a quick no. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like everything/everyone is against me at the moment.

10 comments:

kbreints said...

My brother was put on Ritalin at a very early age (about Dom's) and my parents regret it every day.

It started an addiction spiral.

Just be careful...

hay-- good news... I tagged you for an award on my blog!

Jen said...

Hang in there girl. I know you will pray and that God will show you and Dave the best path to take.

ooh an award...how exciting :)

Carebear said...

New to your blog today - found you through A Little Bit Crazy & A Lot of Love. Sorry you're going through this with your little man. What a joke the budget for our education system is! No summer school even for those kids who need it most. Criminal! I love your header and want to use it as a post on my blog about the crazy/funny/silly/exasperating things kids do. Can I have your permission?

Jess said...

I'm sorry you are struggling with this decision Sabrina. I hope you, Dave and Dom can come up with a plan that you all feel comfortable with. Hugs all around.

Morgan said...

There's a really great book I read about boys and school, but I can't think of the name at the moment... if it comes to me, I will let you know.

Have you considered homeschooling? Might be something that would work better to his learning styles, expecially with being an overactive guy, but would keep him at his current learning rate and not have to hold him back. Just a thought.

Christine said...

TOugh call. Hang in there and keep reevaluating the situation every week. God will make it claer to both of you.

Teesa69 said...

Oh sweetie! I'm sorry you're dealing with this. You know we struggled with that same decision with Harley and finally, when he was 10 we lost our "we're not gonna medicate him" battle. We HAD to do something before he hurt someone or got taken away from us. Harley seems much more severe than Dominic though...I seriously would suggest contacting ARC in your area and asking that they help to get him into ESY (Extended School year services--summer school)--since the teacher thinks that he should be held back...I would explain to the teacher that this will adversely affect him to hold him back...on a self-esteem level! He needs to learn from his typically developing peers, not be held back and learn from children a year younger than him...
Sorry, I went off there...Good luck and PM me if you want to talk more...

Jess said...

I am so sorry that you are even dealing with this for your sweet little guy. The thing about summer school is especially irritating! The decision to start meds is such a personal one. I know you are a woman of strong faith and I truly believe God will give you guidance on the next step to take. Meds can be very helpful in certain situations but you have to make the decision you feel is best and the one you are comfortable with. My (almost) 9 year old has Asperger's syndrome and we did trial meds for him but we didn't notice any improvement. I'm glad we at least tried because now I don't wonder anymore.

Julie said...

I'm so sorry about the disappointing PTC. There has to be another option??? I wish I knew more about behavioral issues, honestly. Sending you a cyber hug!

Sabrina said...

Thanks girls! Luckily there's still 3 more months till the end of the school year so we'll see what happens.